“Oh man, oh man,” I’m already feeling a little awkward putting this post out there cause I already know the Trolls will come out of their little holes ready to eat this up. Thankfully, I’m the baby of my family so I’m used to getting picked on. HA!
First off, this post and video is in no way trying to call out only
mother’s who are raising sons. To be honest, I needy a catchy title
to attract some more readers to my blog and if you’re still reading
this post then my plan worked. lolMy initial intent for writing this post or making a video is to spark
some dialogue among us mamas raising sons and daughters because we ALL
have our work cut out for us. So the fact that I don’t have a son and
I’m not Steve Harvey, I already know I may get all kinds of thrown shade & emojis towards my lack of experience in raising a son.I wouldn’t care about what people are going to say if this was back in
the day where there were villages filled with neighbors substituting
as your mamas’ third eye when she wasn’t around. They wouldn’t be
afraid to speak up and tell you about your child and if they had to
they’d lay hands on them too. Instead we’ve replaced them with an
online village of sort with nothing but sensitive folks ready to spit
hurtful words towards you once you say anything about their parenting
skills. I ask that before you become a ‘Thumb Thug’ to just entertain
this conversation and enjoy some grown folk conversation.Let me start by kindly asking mother’s who are raising sons to stop
referring to them as your ‘little man’ or making them the Man of The
House. I know clutch your pearls my baby mama friends cause I went
there especially when you try to come for a mother and her baby boy.
I know I will never understand the bond shared between a mother and
son and that love you get from a boy is nothing like the love you get
from your daughter…I get it…kinda. But what I don’t get is this
pressure that they’re putting on their Little Man who can barely wipe
his booty after taking a number 2.Even though I don’t have a son I have dealt with men whose Mamas
considered them ‘Man of the House’. One in particular was 9-years-old
when his mama crowned him. Looking back at that relationship I
noticed that he was very bitter towards his father and always felt
guilty leaving his mother behind as he attempted to move on with his
life. Every time he seemed to start to get on his feet (at 23 years
old), there was his mama calling him about her struggles back home in
another state which caused him to feel guilty since he couldn’t help
her financially nor take care of himself. Funny thing is that he
needed her more than she needed him because he wasn’t used to doing
things on his own. I see this happening to so many men and boys
now-a-days. I believe today they’re called F*ck Boys.F**k Boy – a person who is a weak ass pussy that ain’t bout sh*t.
I can’t imagine any mother reading this would want to raise their
little man into a F**k Boy or our daughters dating them either. On
the other hand, I don’t want to feed my daughter with that You Don’t
Need A Man mentality like my mother fed me. All that did was make me
the man and woman in my relationship since I knew how to be
independent. The guy I was with depended on me. Pretty much I took
over where his mama left off.I know I can’t prevent my daughter from dating F**k Boys so I’m
instilling in her that if she is with a man that he should be able to
provide more than what she can provide for herself. I would hope she
wouldn’t try to stay in the relationship and try to fix that Little
Man of yours.Based on what I’m saying I feel like we are raising our sons and
daughters to fail in their relationships. In a creepy way I feel that
the mothers who refer their sons as their little man take care of them
like they are their real boyfriend. Then those mothers (like my mama)
who tell their daughters that they “don’t need a man” are doing a
disservice for them too. In reality both mothers are preventing their
kids from growing up and making their own mistakes. It seems to be a
way to trap them and keep Mama close by so they’re not too far for
Mama to pick up the pieces or from continuing to control their life as
if they are still a kid.If we fail to plan than we plan to fail. Even if our sons and
daughters are passing their classes in school they will fail in life
if we don’t stop crippling their minds or limiting their access to the
real world. We need to plan to label our sons and daughters as Dr.,
CEO, President, etc rather than little man or little princess so that
our kids can strive for bigger and better no matter what their
circumstances are. Let’s plan for their success. If we don’t they
will be extremely disappointed when they are not the Man of the House
at their jobs or realizing that they DO need a man to help them when
they’re stuck on the side of the road with two flat tires wearing an
all-white pantsuit (and with no change of clothes lol).We have to face it that they will be unprepared when they have to deal
with people other than their Mama.We put so much pressures on our
daughters to be independent and take care of themselves but don’t put
that same pressure on our sons. It’s just selfish if we don’t face
the Truth…now!!!
Written by: @YourFavBabyMama (Twitter & Instagram)
