Self-proclaimed Alpha Female, Teneice Bowie’s Viral Post Spark Debates About Assertive Women & Their Male Counterparts

Sweethearts, meet Teneice Bowie. The self-proclaimed alpha-female whose blog post about, just that, went viral causing much discussion about other self-proclaimed alpha-females and their dating woes.

In fact, it was how I too was introduced to Teneice. I came across that very article, “The Alpha Female and the Men Who (Think They) Love Her.”

Although the title captivated my attention, I resonated well with the article. I too, a self-proclaimed alpha-female, have had many discussions about the misconceptions of an assertive woman and why that kind of woman is likely to be single.

Teneice touched on many of these points and so I had to ask her what inspired her to write the article and did she anticipate the thousands of responses, views and shares that the article received.

So tell us, who’s Teneice?

I’m just a regular girl from Maryland. I go through regular stuff, there are no illusions.

Tell us more about yourself, both personally and professionally.

Professionally, I am a US Air-force veteran who worked as a government service employee in DC. I ended my professional career in May 2015 before becoming a full-time entrepreneur.

Personally, I am single but was very married and realized it was not the best thing for me. I’ve been unmarried now for three years ago.

I was 20 when I got married, super young, but also right in line with the culture of the military. When you’re in [the military] you make more money depending on how many dependents you have, giving you a bigger paycheck. But I was in love. So I got married because we were in love and he proposed and I said ‘yes.’

What made you write the article? Most importantly, why did you choose the title,”The Alpha Female and the Men Who (Think They) Love Her?”

I’m not a writer, I want to put that out there. I was creating posts and putting them on my Facebook page. I previously had the opportunity to create a blog but couldn’t commit to a schedule nor be consistent. But, I quickly realized that I couldn’t monetize my personal Facebook page and so the blog was created.

The article came about when I decided to talk about my dating experience with one of the men I was dating and it became frustrating when I realize he wasn’t going to be able to give me what I wanted, but he wouldn’t leave me alone.

I started thinking back about other times the same situation happened in my life. It’s like, they like the energy that the alpha-female give off but can’t handle her. They don’t know how.

Did you expect the reaction from readers and the 10k+ shares the article received?

I did not expect that reaction. It was my fifth post. If I knew, I would have captured all the emails from the people who clicked my page and shared it but I didn’t [laughs].

I was intrigued with how many women identify themselves as an alpha-female. I think some, however, confuse being an alpha with being a bitch.

In my opinion, there are negative connotations about what it means to be an alpha but, for me, it’s someone who is dominant and aggressive but can still remain feminine in relationships.

Being totally nasty is being a bitch. An alpha doesn’t have to be a jerk or a bitch. They should still have tact.

With the relaunch of your site, what’s next for you?

I’m creating an EBook right now. I’m going to do some webinars and videos.

I also have a lifestyle apparel line, Plain Tee Blue Jean, something totally separate from the blog. It’s a luxury and graphic t-shirt, joggers and beanies line.

When I was too lazy to blog, I’d put quotes and punch lines on shirts and people thought the quotes were cool so the apparel came about.

I’ll be bringing on interns, a celebrity stylist, inactivating membership and meet-ups for the blog and networking events. I want our members to be our new BFF’s. We want to do pop-ups and one-on-one conversations over brunch.

I’ll also be independently doing classes about the alpha-female, sexuality and sex appeal, first in the DC area. Maybe in groups of 25 and hopefully we’ll eventually do them in other cities.

You may find Teneice on most social platforms including Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and Periscope as Teneice TV and Twitter as @Teneice_B.

Sweethearts, if you haven’t yet read the article, I suggest you do and check out more of what Teneice has to say about life, dating and more on her blog, Teneice.com.