Near Death & in Despair, How One Women Rebuilt Her Life After Trauma

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Unbeknown to her, Tye Coe would embark on a series of events that change the trajectory of her life in an instant. After a near death experience and subsequent traumatic experiences, Coe was forced to reevaluate her life.

What she ultimately discovered was her strength, resilience and calling. From a car accident, health scare, the surgeries that would follow, a bout with depression; Tye decided to live. Here’s her story…

1. Tye, tell us about the accident that almost took your life. How did that happen?
It all started one morning in January 2018. I flew from LA to San Jose en route to Santa Cruz for several meetings I had set for the day. I was driving on Hwy 17 heading to Santa Cruz, from the San Jose Airport. I was on the freeway for all of 20 minutes, and out of nowhere a car comes out from a residential area to the right of me, attempting to make a left turn onto the freeway, where there was a concrete median divider making it impossible to turn left so the car literally stops in the middle of the highway, IN MY LANE! I was going over 60 mph, beginning to slam on breaks. I attempted to jump in the right lane but there were cars coming so I couldn’t. At that moment, I clinched hard because I knew I was going to have to hit this car! I was immediately taken to the hospital, and that was the start of months of tests, treatments and scans.

Though she survived the impact, seven months later and on her road to recovery, Tye Coe would learn that she now had a brain tumor.

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2. When did you find out you had a brain tumor? How much after the accident did you find out?
Months after going doctors, receiving various treatments and body scans in August 2018 and two days before my birthday, I was diagnosed with a benign brain tumor. The doctor wanted me to have the surgery three weeks later.

3. It’s understandable that you fell into an emotional low-point in your life after the accident and health concerns, what made you want to fight?
In my heart, I knew what I was capable of. I had always had a big vision for my life and I wanted to fulfill it. I was just stuck. I also had my daughter who was pregnant at the time and I wanted to get myself together to be an example for them.

4. What was your source of inspiration? What was your aha moment?
My aha moment came when I realized that because of my depression and feelings of helplessness, after the surgery, I had allowed people in my life that were not reflections of myself. I also didn’t recognize myself and it was in an instant that I made a firm decision. I just clearly said to myself “ This is not my life” and “ This will not be my life!”

5. Give us a day-to-day idea of what you did to rebuild your life?
I first started by getting back into a daily practice of gratitude. I started each day early on just laying in bed and thanking god and the universe for just being alive. Then I found more things to be grateful for daily. I got back into meditating in the mornings and just being more intentional about how I wanted to feel. Then I would do small things daily that reflected how I wanted to feel like taking long baths, cooking nice meals for myself, calling friends and family that I had not talked to in months, working out, etc. It was the small steps daily that got me here.

6. How long did it take before you felt you had made a full recovery?
I still have not made a “full recovery.” I’m not sure that it is even possible but I have set my intentions and work daily to get better and better.

7. And what about your brain tumor diagnosis, did you recover from that too?
I did not recover from the diagnosis. I just accepted it for what it was.

8. What have you learned about survival/your survival instincts that you can share with other women battling trauma and depression?
Perhaps to give them hope? First thing I would say is be kinder and more gentle with yourself. I was extremely hard on myself and I wanted everything to better instantly, and it’s just not going to happen that way. You have to surrender to the journey and make conscious decisions everyday, otherwise you will just be stuck in default mode of sadness and depression. It takes work to be kind to yourself, both mentally and emotionally. Forgive yourself and get clear about what you really want and write it all down. Commit to yourself. Commit to being better. Even if you’re just talking to yourself in a kinder way, that’s a start. Then start taking actions daily that match up with your list.

Through her trials and tribulations, Tye Coe would go on to found Royal Legacy Wellness, the go-to source for inspirational stories, personal development content and holistic wellness products. Powered by revenue-generating business opportunities for partners committed to taking charge over their financial future, the Royal Legacy Wellness community is built on the foundational values of integrity, overall well being, multi- generational wealth and freedom. They wholeheartedly believe that by making a firm DECISION to grow, you have the power to CHOOSE … HEALTH, WEALTH and FREEDOM!  For more information, you can visit royallegacywellness.com

 

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