Ladies, some of you are habitual “committers” of dating a man you’re very much aware isn’t any good for you, but, date them anyway. Why is that? I often wonder if some women, knowingly, date men who are either unavailable to her or isn’t any good so that she has an escape route. In fact, a relationship psychologist may predict that some women intentionally do this to avoid commitment, or because she assumes she’ll never have a committed relationship or believes she is worthy of being loved; whether from a history of failed romances or parental negligence. I’m not a psychologist, but, I too would agree that this is often the case, and, I can also relate.
But here’s why I’m writing this post….earth to Christina Milian, your breakdown over now ex Lil Wayne, on your new E! reality show, Christina Milian Turnt Up, was worthy of an Oscar. Girl, you did that. We were almost convinced those tears were real. Crying over him “seemingly” cheating on you by sharing a photo of a half naked woman on his Instagram profile? Oh, we’re shocked! (insert eye roll). Now you know when you first started dating Wayne you were taking a huge risk. If you did not:
1) That’s a lie
2) Go get your life because you should have known better.
Let’s go down Wayne’s dating history shall we? He’s a known womanizer, a “serial impregnator”, and ding ding ding (the main reason Christina shouldn’t have been dating him in the first place), he’s her ex-husband’s ex-wife’s baby daddy… (Yes, you read that correctly).
For those of you who don’t know, here’s the break down. Christina was once married to music producer The Dream, whom she shares a daughter with. The Dream was once married to fellow songstress Nivea. Although Nivea and The Dream split, they share two children together. Nivea also has a son with Lil Wayne post her split from The Dream. Talk about one big swirl of a family dynamic, huh?
And despite Wayne’s exes (Nivea and Toya Wright) sharing their own disapproval and disgust of the romance, you (Christina) decided to date him anyway.
Now Christina, I’m not berating you because I’m trying to be mean. I’m simply using your story to highlight women knowingly dating men they know aren’t good for them, date them anyway, and are left wondering where they went wrong.
I often tell my friends to really evaluate what kind of energy and substance a man is bringing to the table before dating him. If you are looking for a long-term committed relationship, dating a man who has trouble committing is the first sign you’ve picked wrong.
Now I know what you all are thinking. But, what if you develop serious feelings for the person? In my opinion, falling in love with a person can be a beautiful experience, but if they’ll ultimate bring you heartache is it really worth it?
CK readers, why else do you think woman date men they know aren’t good for them despite the warning signs?
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